Here's why you should start saying NO more often to opportunities in electronic music
If people are reaching out to you for help with their music or to play a gig, then I bet you will either say yes or find a solution for them that would work. A flat no certainly wouldn’t be it...
So many people are afraid of the word “no” - either saying it or hearing it, without feeling guilty or taking it personally. Why is that? You can’t be everything to everybody so why devalue yourself just because “no” is perceived as wrong, arrogant, or dare I say it, bitchy.
Saying no is a way to help set boundaries for yourself so that you don’t spread yourself too thin and can focus on the activities in electronic music that truly matter to you, help you stand out and improve your craft and lead to money-making activities.
It’s important to be able to set boundaries for yourself without feeling guilty or rude.
Saying no gets a lot of bad rep, and that’s not necessary at all. If you say yes to something, do you explain why? Probably not. So, saying no should be as good and easy.
After you’ve watched the video, reflect on the questions below the video to uncover why you’re having trouble saying no.
Before you go, or dismiss this topic entirely, reflect on the following questions and be really honest with yourself:
Have you truly enjoyed each and every thing you’ve said yes to?
How authentic and genuine does it really feel to say yes to everything?
Is there something wrong with saying no?
How has saying yes to everything served so far?
Why is it so hard to say no?
Perhaps you fear rejection, retaliation even?
Truth is, that might very well happen! In an ideal world, your no would be respected without the need for an explanation.
Complying with something because you worry the other person may be unhappy with you or because you think you should for whatever reason, might leave you feeling resentful.
A conflict of interest gives rise to bad feelings that have to and can be managed. If you don’t, you are literally giving away your personal power and the responsibility for your success. That is undermining yourself, for the sake of THEM,
Wouldn’t you rather feel empowered and sure of where you’re headed, take conscious decisions for yourself and your career, in control? You have the right to say no without explaining yourself, be at peace with your decisions.
Sometimes, you WILL say yes, as a compromise, but only do so after you have very carefully weighed, gathered and reflected, and gotten clear on your own thoughts and feelings. It’s easier to ascertain how to compromise if you can truly do it without resentment, consciously.
If you truly want more freedom, time, energy, start saying no.
Now, I would love to hear from you!
Do you find it hard to say no? If so, why? Drop it in the comments below and let me know!